Chi for Two® Practices Celebrate Healthy Oppositional Dances

Chi for Two® developers have identified some potentially problematic paradigms for healthy oppositional dances, like those times when we feel an urge to push into someone else. First, we have to acknowledge as a community that the sub-currents in contemporary health and spiritual culture are hand-me-downs from decades past. 

Regarding this need for healthy oppositional dances in individuals, the cultural revolution of love, exemplified by the Beatles lyrics: all you need is love, presents a problem.  Any healer who works with clients with trauma knows that to tell them just love everyone is not a valid path in itself to healing their trauma patterning.

Most people have heard someone say, "It's all good."  But is it? Is life all good?  This hand-me-down concept from the revolution of love, which did not include all demographics of the global community, has become the current focus on what's called "good energy".  The metaphysical idea of "give good energy" to everyone all the time presents a problem for the dance between individuals and community.  

· When do we do our dances of opposition and thus feel ourselves?  

· What do we do with our oppositional energy that is a good energy but does not look "good" at first glance?

As a trained capoeirista, I ask how do we dance-fight with each other socially.  In the social dance, how do we functionally oppose one another?  The answer is we learn to push into one another while maintaining our individual Circle of Support. We start by pushing into a caregiver who can provide the Circle of Support for us until we can maintain our own Individuated Circle of Support. 

In conflict, we can then aim to remain in our Social Engagement systems, not in Fight/Flight. 

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